31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 30

Day 30 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Almost there – penultimate activity to improve your wellbeing! This is something you do from the moment you are born, but as we become older it seems to become less significant and we begin to lose sight of its value…

Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow. Anthony J. D'Angelo

Invest in some time to learn. Perhaps at school you couldn’t be bothered to put in much effort, or if you did perhaps you’re missing that daily chance to learn something. Investing time to learn will send a message to yourself that you are taking time for yourself, and showing yourself self-love.

The great thing is that now, unlike at school ,you can choose something which truly interests you!

A few of my ideas:

  • Download the Duolingo app to start learning a language
  • Use YouTube for dozens of learning videos – if you’re up for anything, type ‘learn how to’ and see what comes up!
  • Ask a friend or family member to teach you something they are an expert in for an evening

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 29

Day 29 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Only three days left of wellbeing tasks to help you feel (I hope) happier and give yourself some love and attention. Today, it’s a simple one and you only need your mind and to commit to doing it!

You get whatever accomplishment you are willing to declare. Georgia O'Keeffe

What did you accomplish today? Focusing on your accomplishments is important to our wellbeing and mental health. It’s easy to focus on all the tasks you didn’t manage to do. At work, you berate yourself for not finishing the to-do list, or at home for not finding time to call that friend or sort out the garden.

When I was having a very busy, stressful period at work, a work colleague told me to focus on all of the good things I have managed to do, rather than worry about all the tasks I didn’t have time for. This really stuck with me, and I try to remember this when I feel stressed and anxious about my ever-growing to-do lists.

Remember, accomplishments do not need to be earth-shattering feats! Think about what you have achieved today (at least 3 things!). For me (and it’s only 3pm), they are:

  • Cleaned the house (not all of it obviously, I’m not crazy…but enough of it to make a difference)
  • Took Gracie for a lovely walk in the sun, and managed to distract her from 3 dogs successfully
  • Wrote a new blog post for the first time in a few days

You can only do so much in one day, so go easy on yourself and focus on those accomplishments 🙂

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 27

Day 27 of 31 Days of Wellbeing...

When was the last time you tried something for the first time?

Just try new things. Don't be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and soar, all right_ - Michelle Obama

Some of you may be turning off immediately and thinking this activity is too challenging. It is so much easier to stay in your comfort zone where you feel safe and cosy. Nothing wrong with that, I won’t make a prat of myself or fail if I stay at home and do things that I know well.

Do you want to feel good about yourself? Do you want to improve your self-esteem and boost your wellbeing? If the answer is yes, then you need to take on this challenge. All you need to do is try something new (lovely rhyming there). The great thing is, it doesn’t have to be anything HUGE! It could be…but if you’re nervous let’s start small. Here are some suggestions:

  • Different route to work
  • Talk to a colleague you’ve never spoken to before
  • Cook a new recipe
  • Try a new exercise class, machine at the gym or YouTube exercise video
  • Do something new in the evening e.g. crossword with your partner instead of watching TV

Trying new things regularly will refresh your mind, body and life so let’s get started this week!

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 25

Day 25 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

I am going to completely contradict my previous post about donating now, and tell you to do the opposite! I think both have their place in supporting your wellbeing.

You have to treat yourself every once in a while, get to the fun stuff!Heidi Klum

Don’t rely on others to buy you flowers, chocolates or other treats. Take control and show yourself some love independently today. I’m not advising anyone to spend hundreds of pounds on the latest gadget (unless you have the spare money rocking around!), but treat yourself to something which brings you happiness.

Personally I am probably going to buy either a plant or some flowers, as I always rely on others to buy these for me. Why wait?! 🙂


31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 24

Day 24 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

I don’t know about anyone else, but if your Easter is anything like mine, I have over-indulged and spent many a penny on too many Easter treats. Like Christmas, it is a pretty overindulgent time of year. This is absolutely fine, but we must remember there are people out there who are struggling…perhaps with health, loneliness or homelessness.

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.Charles Dickens

Do you remember that episode of FRIENDS, when Phoebe said that you couldn’t donate 100% selflessly? I think she was right, and this is a positive thing because it means it is a win-win situation to give to others. They benefit from your generosity, and you benefit from feeling good about giving.

So today, make a donation! It’s so easy nowadays to do this – online or in person if you see a collections box. Give at least £5 and feel good about it – even if your self-esteem and/or wellbeing is at rock bottom, you have done something amazing today.

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 23

Day 23 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Even us introverts need to socialise for healthy wellbeing. It is so easy for some of us to fall into the trap of avoiding people contact when we are feeling down. This is the worst thing we can possibly do!

Choose to focus your time

We need people in our lives to make us laugh, listen to our stories and to support us through hard times. Shutting yourself away for days rather than hours does you more harm than good.

Therefore, your activity today is to arrange a catch up with somebody who makes you feel good. Someone who supports you or inspires you. It doesn’t matter if it’s scheduled next week or even next month, but arrange to spend your energy with those people who improve your wellbeing. Oh, and it can’t be anyone who lives in your house – this is about making contact with someone you don’t see everyday 🙂

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 22

Day 22 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Time to dig a little deeper into ourselves today – not as scary as it sounds!

I'm reflective only in the sense that I learn to move forward. I reflect with a purpose. Kobe Bryant

Today, it is time to reflect. Reflect on the day that has passed, or even the week/month/year so far. Take stock of the challenges and successes. What has made you feel good in body and mind? What has made you feel anxious, tired and down?

After you have reflected, make a pact with yourself that you will make a specific change. What change would make you feel better, healthier and happier? For me, I have learned that office politics get me down and affect my life negatively both in and out of work. The change I am committing to myself is that I will do my best to stay out of these politics, and keep my frustrations to myself and people outside of work!

In summary, you can take control of certain things which negatively affect your physical and mental wellbeing. Today, reflect on what is harming your wellbeing and make a change…

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 21

Day 21 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

This is definitely one of the hardest activities for me… I am totally in awe of anyone who can do this for more than one day per week.

Research has shown that even small amounts of processed food alter the chemical balance in our brain and cause negative mood swings along with noticeable dips ill energy. Marilu Henner

Try to go one day this week (ideally today but depends what you have already eaten so far!) without processed foods. By that I mean cakes, biscuits, crisps, sweets, fizzy drinks, ready meals, takeaways at the very least. You can take it further and rule out any items which have sugar added, including bread. For me, it is a big enough shock to my system just doing those initial few so I’m going there first!

There is definite research which shows the link between physical/mental wellbeing and what we eat. It is worth making the effort to buy fresh food and cook dinners from scratch. If you think it takes too long to cook dinners from scratch, I recommend The Body Coach recipe books – they take less than 30 minutes. Also, read my post on healthy breakfasts for the working week, five tips to cut down your sugar intake and my top five healthy foods.

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 20

Day 20 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

So many of us fall into the trap of people pleasing. We are so keen to please, that we become afraid to disagree with someone…afraid of admitting the films we truly enjoy because we know the others think differently….scared of showing our real opinions at work…or maybe it’s just me!

We shouldn’t be afraid. Everyone’s opinion is worth something, and it wreaks havoc with your self-esteem if you let the fear of being yourself take over to the point where you are acting like somebody else.

The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay

Today, please, be unashamedly you. Say what you are thinking, rather than stopping yourself for fear of saying something ‘wrong’. Listen to the music which makes your heart sing, rather than pretending to like something else. Admit that your favourite film is Lord of the Rings when your colleague talks about his hatred of fantasy films. Be quiet when you want to be, be crazy when that feeling hits…and don’t fear the reactions. There is only one of you, the world does not need clones and you need to stop denying everyone your uniqueness.


31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 19

Day 19 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

It is so easy to get wrapped up in all the frustrating little moments in life. Too much traffic, a tiff with a colleague, leaving a tissue in the laundry (my worst one!)…these silly things can have a really negative impact on you. And that’s okay! We will all get wound up by these tiny moments and it is unlikely you’ll stop doing this just by reading this blog!

However, it is important to sit back at the end of a frustrating day and get some perspective…

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

So before you go to bed tonight, either think or write down at least five things you have been grateful for today. This is an amazing thing to do daily if you can, or weekly…or monthly…yearly is better than never!

My gratitude list for today:

  • A work colleague being kind and generous and giving me great advice
  • Having time to do a yoga session after work
  • My mum making time to speak to me on the phone
  • A sunny and dry day for once 🙂
  • Grateful to have time to write this blog