31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 22

Day 22 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Time to dig a little deeper into ourselves today – not as scary as it sounds!

I'm reflective only in the sense that I learn to move forward. I reflect with a purpose. Kobe Bryant

Today, it is time to reflect. Reflect on the day that has passed, or even the week/month/year so far. Take stock of the challenges and successes. What has made you feel good in body and mind? What has made you feel anxious, tired and down?

After you have reflected, make a pact with yourself that you will make a specific change. What change would make you feel better, healthier and happier? For me, I have learned that office politics get me down and affect my life negatively both in and out of work. The change I am committing to myself is that I will do my best to stay out of these politics, and keep my frustrations to myself and people outside of work!

In summary, you can take control of certain things which negatively affect your physical and mental wellbeing. Today, reflect on what is harming your wellbeing and make a change…

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31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 15

Day 15 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

This is probably the hardest mental activity to do so far. We are often told to make a list of our strengths as part of a wellbeing challenge, but in Fearne Cotton’s ‘Happy: Journal’ book, I was asked to do something completely opposite, which was scary but actually a useful activity!

Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring. Marilyn Monroe

Yes, I am asking you to think about your imperfections. Be honest about what you think your shortcomings are. However, a couple of rules! Firstly, remember you are your worst critic. If your friend was to make a list of your shortcomings, they would probably struggle to think of one, so don’t freak out if your mental list of flaws is long.

Secondly, as you think of an imperfection, try to make peace with it. Accept that you are not perfect. Does anybody actually like a person with no flaws? Does that person even exist? It isn’t a person I could get on with! Flaws are relatable, remember. Try to think of a positive point from the flaw as well, e.g. perhaps you are over-emotional but that could also be a sign that you care, which is lovely!

Here are a few from my list:

  • Oversensitive (positive: I am a big softie really who cares too much)
  • Passive-agressive (positive: I hate confrontation and avoid scary fights)
  • Quiet in big groups and meetings (positive: I listen well and it would be a problem if everybody in a group is loud and overbearing)
  • Untoned thighs (positive: I am very relatable, a lot of women suffer from this from what I hear!)

I will stop there…you don’t want to go on and on with this list because that will eventually make you feel rubbish! But think of 4-5 and the key to healthy wellbeing is to learn to accept these imperfections and see them in a more positive light.

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 14

Day 14 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

As much as I love my home, travelling is something which has always boosted my wellbeing and love for life. I believe experiencing and appreciating the wider world is important for our wellbeing, as it takes us away from stagnant routines and heavy workloads, which can grind us down and make us feel like life is all about chores and repetitive tasks.

Charles Horton CooleyTo get away from one's working environment is, in a sense, to get away from one's self; and this is often the chief advantage of travel and change.

Unless this is very well-timed, I imagine you are not able to take off on your travels today! Today, it is all about planning or looking back on travels. Perhaps you have a holiday booked which feels like it is ages away – get online and look at photos of that place. Plan some activities you might do, places you could visit or restaurants to try. This should at least inspire some positive feelings of excitement and happiness, knowing that your holiday is on its way!

If you have nothing booked, you have two things to do. Look back at previous holiday photos, and remember those wonderful feelings of happiness and smile at those memories. Secondly, get planning your next trip! Even if it is a cheap weekend or day trip in the UK, please plan in something which will allow you to see a different part of the world. 🙂

 

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 10

Day 10 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Perhaps you’ve had a tough week, and sometimes that can make you feel like giving up on happiness and wellbeing. It can be easy to wallow in the sadness/anger that you feel because in some ways, that’s actually easier than pulling yourself back into the light.

Let’s make an effort today to move towards the light (or further if you’ve had a positive week!), rather than deeper into stormy clouds. A good start is focusing on an activity which might improve your wellbeing…and that is where I can help!

“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It_s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. It_s anything that does not support your better self” Eleanor Brown

Yes, it is time to declutter. The hardest part about cleaning and decluttering is getting started. I find as soon as you get started, you can get into the flow and you might even start to enjoy it! Put on that happy playlist you created yesterday so it becomes something more fun.

Don’t make this an overwhelming task – just aim to declutter or clean one room in the house today. If you do more, great, but it can be tiring and you might be very busy today, so even if it is one area in a room, that is awesome!

At the same time, I want you to also focus on decluttering your mind. Let’s face it, that is more important than our physical surroundings. I ask you to start with the physical but it can make mental decluttering much easier when you look around a clear room. Declutter your mind of negative thoughts and anything that doesn’t resemble self-love. It’s not easy, but make a conscious effort today to push away this darkness when it starts to inch into your mind.

Good luck and happy decluttering!

 

 

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 9

Day 9 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

You know I love a good list from a couple of previous days…well time to make another, but with a twist!

Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life. Berthold AuerbachRead more at_ https_www.brainyquote.comtopicsmusic

Today, make your happy playlist. Choose those songs which make you feel good, inspire you or just bring a smile to your face. I like to put on my happy playlist to and from work, as it pumps me up for the day ahead and helps me forget about the stress on the drive home. But put it on whenever you could use a pick me up!

Would love to hear some of the songs on your happy playlist in the comments 🙂

Some of my current happy playlist:

Sigala & Ella Eyre – Came Here for the Love

Pink – Raise Your Glass

Walk the Moon – Shut Up and Dance

Jamiroquai – Love Foolosophy

Green Day – Holiday

La La Land – Another Day of Sun

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 6

Day 6 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Hope your list writing went well…even if the list was in your head or had one item on it!

I am actually going to ask you to write another list today. Please don’t stop reading now, I promise this list is going to be different and not a list of chores.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ― Mahatma Gandhi (1)

It is time to write a list of what makes you happy.Writing the list can also make you sometimes realise that you are spending too much of your time doing the things you don’t really love…perhaps because you feel like you should. I know I am guilty of saying ‘yes’ to lots of different plans when what I really would love to do is snuggle on the sofa with my dog! Make sure you are writing down activities which you can do often – ‘travelling the world’ would be more of a goal than something you can aim to do often…unless you are lucky enough to be that wealthy!

The most important part comes after you have written this list of course, as what you need to do is make sure you are doing these things as often as possible. Do more of what makes you happy – your mental health will improve so much because you are showing yourself you care enough to do what you love and enjoy.

My Happy List:

  • Chilling with future hubby and dog on our very comfy sofa
  • Walking in beautiful surroundings
  • Weekends away in the countryside
  • Eating good food and drinking good wine
  • Dancing to great songs in bars (not everyday I should add!)
  • Getting an early night
  • Practising yoga
  • Spending weekend days with friends and family
  • Reading in bed
  • Writing blog posts 🙂

Enjoy writing your list!

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 4

Day 4 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Hope everyone managed to let something go yesterday 🙂

Your wellbeing challenge today is a lovely one if you enjoy this activity. Some of you may be do this everyday already, therefore this could be an easy one! However, if it’s not an activity you have done much since studying, it could feel like a challenge…

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” ― Charles William Eliot

Today, please pick up a book or Kindle and read (and I don’t mean Daily Mail articles!). I want you do this at a time when you would normally either be watching Netflix series back to back (guilty!) or when you would be scrolling mindlessly on your mobile phone. These activities tend to disengage your brain or have you looking at other people’s ‘glamourous’ lives and picking fault at your own. Reading can engage your brain, transport you to a magical world and get you thinking about important issues. All great things for your wellbeing!

If you struggle with reading and feel like you don’t have the time or want to make the time, start off with just one chapter per night before you go to sleep. That’s all I do at the moment, and it’s enough to take me away from the mindless Instagram scrolling for 10-15 minutes. I swear this makes it easier to relax and go to sleep as well.

Happy reading!

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 3

Day 3 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

This will be a brief one as it is one of those rushed mornings when it feels like time is going at 3 x the usual pace! It is a Saturday and some of you may be busy like me all day today and not have time for walks and yoga. Let’s focus on something you can do today alongside everything else, so it doesn’t take up your valuable time.

LET A BAD FEELING GO.

Whether that is an ongoing feeling of frustration toward someone, or a feeling of anger at something a friend or loved one has said lately, make peace with it today. I know it could be hard…personally I am worried I will not be able to keep this up even for a day! However, it helps to remind yourself that this bad feeling is mainly hurting you. The other person may not notice or even care, yet you are holding onto this feeling that is hurting your wellbeing.

So right here, right now (and hopefully for the rest of today), let that feeling go and be free!

Let go or be dragged.

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 1

Here we go…let’s dedicate this month to our own good mental health and happiness through 31 Days of Wellbeing.

Your activity for Day 1 is very simple…yet also could be a challenge, particularly if you are in the midst of a snowstorm like we are in the UK at the moment.

Day 1: Get outside and walk

All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking

The fact it is miserable weather must not stop you from doing this! Even if you have to get your thick coat one, hood up, gloves on and brolly up…I promise you will feel better for getting your body moving and breathing in fresh air.

If you are lucky, you might naturally be walking around outside as part of your job. For most of us, we are sat in an overheated or over air-conditioned, stuffy office! It is easy to end up staying in an environment like that all day, getting straight into a car and then into our house. That lack of fresh air is not good for us. Breathing in fresh air is feeding our mind, body, spirit and soul. You can tell I am really into this…

Even if it is just a 5 minute walk during your lunch break, please take some time to do this one simple thing which could make a massive difference to your wellbeing. If this goes well, start to think of ways you could increase the time you are walking. Perhaps you could choose a spot in the car park further away, or suggest a ‘walking meeting’ with your colleague for a change.

I would love to hear if you do take the time to do this today…please comment below if so!

31 Days of Wellbeing

I don’t know how everyone else is feeling, but to me, it seems like a stressful time. We need to focus on our wellbeing during stressful times, therefore I am dedicating 31 days to wellbeing and setting one activity per day to alleviate stress and bring a little happiness into each day. Some is physical, some is mental, some is emotional…but all are very small things which I believe could make a big difference alongside one another.

I have been inspired by Fearne Cotton’s Happy: The Journal, which forces me to dedicate some of my day to ‘me’ and to my happiness and wellbeing. It has been good for me to do this, it’s become a great new bedtime routine alongside my Harry Potter re-reading! Now I will create my own to double the joy 🙂

Please join me and let’s get some positive vibes into our life!

Day 1: Walk outside

Day 2: Make shapes

Day 3: Let it go

Day 4: Read words

Day 5: To-do list

Day 6: Happy list

Day 7: Plan ‘me time’

Day 8: Be kind

Day 9: Happy playlist

Day 10: Declutter

Day 11: Are you having a laugh?

Day 12: Cooking a feast

Day 13: Early night anyone?

Day 14: Plan a trip

Day 15: Accept your flaws

Day 16: Create a quote

Day 17: Be proud

Day 18: Drink H20

Day 19: Gratitude

Day 20: Be YOU

Day 21: Leave the processed stuff

Day 22: Reflect and make a change

Day 23: Organise to meet someone

Day 24: Donate

Day 25: Treat yourself

Day 26: Memories

Day 27: Try something new

Day 28: Create

Day 29: Accomplishments