31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 23

Day 23 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

Even us introverts need to socialise for healthy wellbeing. It is so easy for some of us to fall into the trap of avoiding people contact when we are feeling down. This is the worst thing we can possibly do!

Choose to focus your time

We need people in our lives to make us laugh, listen to our stories and to support us through hard times. Shutting yourself away for days rather than hours does you more harm than good.

Therefore, your activity today is to arrange a catch up with somebody who makes you feel good. Someone who supports you or inspires you. It doesn’t matter if it’s scheduled next week or even next month, but arrange to spend your energy with those people who improve your wellbeing. Oh, and it can’t be anyone who lives in your house – this is about making contact with someone you don’t see everyday 🙂

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31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 8

Day 8 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

It’s already Day 8 of taking care of your health and wellbeing…I hope you’re feeling some benefits of taking a little bit of time to focus on yourself. To be honest, it might not feel like anything has changed at first, but the longer you can keep this up, the more you will begin to notice the benefits. Don’t give up and let’s move to the next task!

Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you. Princess DianaRead more at_ https_www.brain

Kindness, in my opinion, is seriously underrated. It is a wonderful quality to have and show to others. It brightens up someone else’s day, and at the same time will have a positive effect on your self-esteem and wellbeing. Like Diana said, if you offer kindness to others, you are also more likely to receive it back.

Let’s all make the world a better place by showing some conscious displays of kindness today (and hopefully beyond!)…

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 7

Hello Day 7 of 31 Days of making yourself feel good and healthy 🙂

No lists today after the to-do lists and happy lists. Today I ask you to make sure you have time to yourself so you can actually do those things that make you happy.

_It's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It's necessary. _ – Mandy Hale

Get your diary out and make sure you plan in evenings and at least one full day this month when you can do exactly what you want. Plan in activities from your happy list – it is so important that you make your happiness a priority. You’ll find you have so much more positive energy to bring to other people and tasks after doing this.

See you tomorrow!

31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 3

Day 3 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

This will be a brief one as it is one of those rushed mornings when it feels like time is going at 3 x the usual pace! It is a Saturday and some of you may be busy like me all day today and not have time for walks and yoga. Let’s focus on something you can do today alongside everything else, so it doesn’t take up your valuable time.

LET A BAD FEELING GO.

Whether that is an ongoing feeling of frustration toward someone, or a feeling of anger at something a friend or loved one has said lately, make peace with it today. I know it could be hard…personally I am worried I will not be able to keep this up even for a day! However, it helps to remind yourself that this bad feeling is mainly hurting you. The other person may not notice or even care, yet you are holding onto this feeling that is hurting your wellbeing.

So right here, right now (and hopefully for the rest of today), let that feeling go and be free!

Let go or be dragged.

Seeing humour

Gemma C

I love Gemma Correll’s work, which actually makes you smile at the darker issues some of us go through. I know the last thing we feel like doing is laughing when feeling low, but if you can find a little humour from time to time, it really helps. I’d say my ‘funniest’ moment when I was suffering was when I hid from an old friend’s mother in the theatre. My parents were totally bemused at what the heck I was doing, crouching down behind a theatre seat! I didn’t want anybody  I knew (aside from my parents) to see me or talk to me that night because I felt like a horrible human being. Now I look back on that, I can smile at how amusing that scene must have looked!

You might not be able to smile at your lower moments right now, but try to find something which gives you a little light relief. Whether that’s images you see on Facebook (I highly recommend looking at more images from Gemma Correll!), watching a comedy or spending time with a friend who makes you laugh, it makes a big difference to get that occasional smile.

Boost of the Day

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Love this quote from the really inspiring Davina McCall’s new book ‘Lessons I’ve Learned’ – making me very tempted to buy the whole book and she clearly has a lot of wisdom to share!

Setting yourself overly high standards is one thing that can be destructive to your wellbeing, expecting other people in your life to be perfect is even more harming. The more you can learn to accept others’ flaws and imperfections, the easier it will come to accept your own. So next time you go to criticise or moan about a loved one, give them and yourself a break!

Boost of the Day #172: Be someone’s priority

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

I have spent many years of dating (mostly) men who made me anxious and miserable, and now I am in a happy relationship I can see what my issue was. I chose partners who were not ready for commitment. The ones who would be charming when we spent time together, but who were not that interested in making me their priority.

Sports, their job, other women…there was always something more important. Now I cannot believe I put up with that, why I was interested in pursing someone who did not place a high value on me. The main reason was having low self-esteem, not believing I was worthy of real devotion…hence why I write this website!

If you do not love yourself, your chances of finding a healthy, successful relationship are slim. Please take the time to improve your self-esteem, it is at the root of creating a truly happy life. Start by looking at your current relationships, and kick into touch anyone who does not make you enough of a priority.

Boost of the Day #166: Forgive

Forgive people in your life, even those who are not sorry for their actions.Holding onto anger only hurts you, not them.

This is a tough one because it is hard to forgive someone who has hurt you, especially if they are not sorry.

This quote is so true though… Holding onto all of that negativity and anger may not affect them, but it will definitely make your life harder.

Learn to let go and be happy. Distract yourself with people who are good to you, focus on activities which bring you pleasure and forget those who only bring negative vibes.

Boost of the Day #161: Teach others what you deserve

Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.

If you let people walk all over you, you are teaching them a lesson. That they can walk all over you and get away with it. So they will learn from this lesson, and do it again.

What’s the alternative? When somebody does something which makes you unhappy, tell them this is not welcome and not acceptable. They will learn a valuable lesson that you will not tolerate anything less than what you deserve. And you will be treated with respect.

Remember, you teach others how to treat you…