"With a negative mindset you only see negative things happen, yet positive things happen all the time. Alter your state of mind to see them." Jerry Corstens Day Four: Observe Yesterday, you appreciated your own personality. If only this was something we could do all the time. Generally, people with low self-esteem observe themselves as a … Continue reading 30 Day Self-Esteem Challenge: Day Four
Comparison is the thief of joy. Someone else's life may look better than yours, but the outside picture people portray is often far from reality. Problems are often hidden whilst successes are shouted about. So just focus on you and your life, and making it the best possible.
Controlling negative thoughts takes a lot of practice, but like anything, you can get better at it. One way can be to tell them to shut up and take a hike - just recognising that you want to stop those thoughts can be an effective short-term solution. Another (more practical and long-term) way can be to … Continue reading Boost of the Day #78: Shut up negativity!
In my post about a useful, practical way of raising low self-esteem, I said I would write a follow-up article on how to find alternative perspectives to negative predictions. It can be really hard to think of an alternative perspective when you strongly believe something negative. Asking yourself the following questions may help... I will use … Continue reading Booster tip #7: Finding alternative perspectives
Raising self-esteem is not easy, and you will struggle with the journey without doing practical exercises to change your inner beliefs. Doing this simple predictions and precautions exercise will help you better understand what is the cause of your problems and how to challenge your core beliefs which are resulting in low self-esteem. Below is a … Continue reading Boosting self-esteem tip #6: Predictions and Precautions
If you're going to use up energy on something, don't make it misery and hatred. Focus it on becoming stronger and seeing the positive in your situation, no matter how negative it may initially seem.
I remember being particular negative about myself one counselling session, and she said to me, 'would you say that to a friend or your mum?'. It was a real kick up the bum to make me realise how harsh I was being towards myself. It has always worked for me since this moment to think, … Continue reading Boost of the day #25: Ban the negative self-talk