I have spent many years of dating (mostly) men who made me anxious and miserable, and now I am in a happy relationship I can see what my issue was. I chose partners who were not ready for commitment. The ones who would be charming when we spent time together, but who were not that interested … Continue reading Boost of the Day #172: Be someone’s priority
For the sake of your own self-esteem, do not chase others. I don't mean to just wait around and never take the initiative to get in touch with people and organise outings, but you should not have to persistently chase someone to get them to stay in your life. If you're always the one doing the … Continue reading Boost of the Day #84: Don’t chase, but attract.
Do you believe you need a relationship to make you a complete person? Believing this will inevitably lead to you being reliant (and often, needy) on another person to feel good about yourself. To truly have high self-esteem, you need to work on believing that you can be complete all by yourself. That way, you … Continue reading Boost of the Day #75: Be Complete
This quote seems particularly relevant today. Last night I was due to meet a guy I've been hankering after for the past month and who has already messed me around a fair bit...he ended up cancelling on me - 30 minutes after we were due to meet!! If we go back to the 'me' a … Continue reading Boost of the day #16
I found this excellent quote on jaylendunoe's blog! A bonus that it is Will Smith, looking at his arms gave me a boost anyway!! Aside from the picture, I think this is true wisdom from Mr Smith. Particularly when it comes to dating, chasing someone will make you feel more insecure and less valuable. This is … Continue reading Boost of the day #9
Morning from sunny England (finally!),
During my daily read of blogs on self-esteem, I came across one which I completely related to so I thought I should share. I have been guilty of putting men I date on a pedestal and I have slowly realised that this will never lead to a healthy relationship, and indeed will always lead to being hurt.
So it’s time to swear off dating until you really love and value yourself. Focus on yourself and your self-worth for a while…then you’ll be sharing that pedestal 😊
Do you sometimes notice that when you are with the man or woman you feel romantically and sexually about you put them on a pedestal?
You may think at first you are doing this because of how special they are to you. You may think you admire another person or “look up” to them. This is just not the case when we choose to place someone on a pedestal. In this case, by placing another person above us, we are literally and automatically putting ourselves below them in a much lower position with much less power. Not only is this a very vulnerable position, but also a very unhealthy one. If we want to find and seek healthy relationships we must not knowingly put others above us leaving us feeling worthless and not good enough to be valued and wanted.
What is wrong with us when we do this?
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