Never underestimate the importance of putting in effort. Let’s take the example of someone who runs a marathon in a fast time or a weightlifter. These people didn’t start off running at an epic speed or lifting 50 kilos. They chose to put in time and effort to become good at something.
It’s the effort that defines people. The effort they put into relationships or friendships will define them. The effort they put in when they’re depressed to just leave their home will define them. The effort they put into improving themselves will define them.
Monday motivation at its best…thanks Winston!
When you have low self esteem, it is easy to feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You think you don’t deserve such treatment, especially from your worst enemy, yourself! I have a feeling your friends and family might think quite differently, and would encourage you to spend time doing the things that you love, the things that make you feel good.
Take time today, or at least for a couple of hours during the weekend, to take care of you. Watch your favourite film, pamper yourself, do what makes you happy for once…
If you’ve lived your life trying to meet everyone else’s expectations and desires, it’s time to take a stand. Maybe you’ve had a secret longing to start a hobby or follow a passion in your heart but felt like others would judge it. Maybe you’ve been suppressing a part of your personality that you think others wouldn’t like.
If you don’t accept that part of yourself or that need to do something, you’re not giving the world a chance to either. The world is full of people trying to fit in and be alike, when what it really needs is variety. You can bring variety to the world because nobody else is you!
Stop holding back and embrace who you really are. It’s never too late to do this…
If it’s a beautiful day like it is today in many parts of England, there could be nothing worse than not going outside.
Even if it’s a quick five minute walk round the block, take the time today to breathe in some fresh air and if possible, make the most of the weather and get active. Walking, running, cycling, whatever floats your boat and gets you moving is going to give you an even bigger boost today.
There’s always Sunday evening to catch up on TV, have a glass of wine and eat good food. It’ll be all the better for having spent some time outside…
Never aim for perfection, no matter what the task in hand is. You’re just setting yourself up for anxiety, stress and a sense of failure. It’s really easy to say this – much harder to execute in reality if you have perfectionist tendencies!
Try looking at your situation as if you were looking at your friend with the same perfectionist thoughts – would you expect a friend to serve the perfect meal, have the perfect home/job or do a perfect presentation at work? I doubt you’d put the same pressure on that friend…
Aim to make progress, not be perfect. You’ll never reach happiness or self worth otherwise.
Competition can be healthy, but the best type of competition is the one you have with yourself.
Don’t focus on beating others so much, focus on becoming the best version of yourself you can be. That could be by making progress in a hobby you enjoy, working towards a personal goal or just by becoming an even kinder (*or insert other personality trait*) person than you already are.
Boosting self-esteem or dealing with any mental/physical wellbeing issue takes courage. It takes courage to make steps to change your life, especially when you have to face parts of yourself that you have always hidden away.
This courage is not the kind of courage that others will notice…it’s not the same as jumping from a plane. It’s quietly making progress whilst facing your inner fears. Far, far scarier in fact. Stay courageous and keep making those steps.
What a great quote from J K Rowling! To know someone so successful hit rock bottom and rebuilt her life in such an amazing way should give anyone hope. Sometimes I think rock bottom is necessary, and can actually help you. If you can pick yourself up from feeling so low, you can give yourself a fresh start and build your life the way you need it to be this time.