31 Days of Wellbeing: Day 20

Day 20 of 31 Days of Wellbeing

So many of us fall into the trap of people pleasing. We are so keen to please, that we become afraid to disagree with someone…afraid of admitting the films we truly enjoy because we know the others think differently….scared of showing our real opinions at work…or maybe it’s just me!

We shouldn’t be afraid. Everyone’s opinion is worth something, and it wreaks havoc with your self-esteem if you let the fear of being yourself take over to the point where you are acting like somebody else.

The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay

Today, please, be unashamedly you. Say what you are thinking, rather than stopping yourself for fear of saying something ‘wrong’. Listen to the music which makes your heart sing, rather than pretending to like something else. Admit that your favourite film is Lord of the Rings when your colleague talks about his hatred of fantasy films. Be quiet when you want to be, be crazy when that feeling hits…and don’t fear the reactions. There is only one of you, the world does not need clones and you need to stop denying everyone your uniqueness.



Boost of the Day #175: Bravery vs Fear

More often than not, being brave means doing it scared.

Don’t be too worried about feeling a little fear in your heart. Bravery means taking a step when you’re afraid sometimes, and bravery can take you some pretty amazing places.

Boost of the Day #161: Teach others what you deserve

Never accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.

If you let people walk all over you, you are teaching them a lesson. That they can walk all over you and get away with it. So they will learn from this lesson, and do it again.

What’s the alternative? When somebody does something which makes you unhappy, tell them this is not welcome and not acceptable. They will learn a valuable lesson that you will not tolerate anything less than what you deserve. And you will be treated with respect.

Remember, you teach others how to treat you…

Boost of the Day #158: 1 pearl of Ghandi wisdom

In a gentle way, you can shake the world

You do not need to do anything particularly grand to change the world for the better.

Small gestures – bringing a little kindness, generosity, helpfulness and happiness to others will shake lives and the world more than anything materialistic.

Don’t think you are not meaningful to the world because you’re quietly doing good and not shouting aloud your success. Well done for being so modest 🙂

Boost of the Day #152: Be who you were meant to be

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

Rather than spending your time and effort trying to be something different…trying to be something that goes against your true self, work on un-become everything that isn’t really you.

Stop pretending to like that style of music because your friends do, stop going to the gym if you hate it (and find something physical you DO enjoy!), stop gossiping if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

The great part of this is, your time and effort can now be channeled into making a life you love…with the people you love. Being yourself will take less energy and is much easier!

Boost of the Day #144: Self confidence

The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do.

I know it’s perhaps the last thing you want to hear… but to increase your self confidence you are going to have to embrace those things you most fear doing.

Whether that’s holding a conversation with someone you fancy, trying a sport which you worry you’ll be no good at or going for a job you fear is out of your reach… the more you do the things you are afraid of, the more self confidence you’ll gain.

So this week, try to do something you’re afraid of – at work, in your personal life or physically.

Boost of the Day #140: Looking silly?

There's power in looking silly and not caring that you do.

We all look silly sometimes, we all make mistakes, we are all foolish at times. This makes a person human, makes them realDon’t shy away from these moment – smile, laugh or breathe it off and move on. This gives you the power, gives you control over your life rather than letting it control you.